Soul Mate or Twin Flame

By Tonya Somers

http://www.tonyasomers.com/finding-my-soulmate.htm

The term ”Soul Mate,” is very commonly misunderstood and misused. A soul mate should come with huge warning labels on their forehead. A twin flame comes into your life with a truly clean slate, ready for you and no drama at all. You will both be single at the time of meeting and ready to start a life together.

If you have met your twin flame there will no drama - none. If you have met your soul mate, there always will be big issues to deal with, forever.

Soul Mates

The term, ”Soul Mate,” is very commonly misunderstood and misused. This is because the "900 number" commercials use the term soul mate frequently and incorrectly, confusing it with the term "Twin Flame". The "900 lines" would lead you to believe that you have found your one true other half (Twin Flame) when, in reality, you have found only ONE of your many SOUL MATES. Sometimes a soul mate is a very loving partner but in most cases, they should come with huge warning labels on the forehead:

TURN AROUND, RUN NOW, MEGA LIFE CHANGING DANGER APPROACHING! HEAD GAMES, LIAR, CHEATER, ADDICT, CRAZY MAKER APPROACHING!

Soul mates come into our lives to teach us lessons. These lesson givers quite often come into our lives as alcoholics, abusers, gamblers, addicts, cheaters, once a cheater always a cheater, have depression issues, had a dysfunctional childhood, a drama queen or king, sex-addicts, bosses, emotionally unavailable or your best friend's mate. I know this sounds like half the population, but beware of the true nature of the soul mate. There is always an issue to deal with from a past life or unfinished soul mate business.

Are you about to become caught up in the constant chaos they can and will bring into your life? Will your soul-mate become your addiction?

Before you step into this mess that you may wish later you could just scrape off your shoes, ask yourself, would you fix this person up with your best friend or even a stranger?

If not, why would you date them yourself? There is always a messy complication but with a huge amount of electricity and chemistry/pull to keep you in the game.

PAY ATTENTION TO ALL RED FLAGS!
THEY ARE VALID WARNINGS.

That's our own intuition talking to us. Unfortunately with a soul mate, often times we choose to ignore all the warning signs. Often we don’t even like this person when we first meet them, but we allow this lesson into our lives anyway. Yes, it makes us stronger and hopefully we learn not to repeat the same relationship mistakes, but the Universe will continue to bring us these soul mate lessons until we learn.

The truth is, a soul mate will always come into your life with major KARMA for you to deal with. The good news is you don’t have to play. You can choose to not engage in the lesson (hopefully, because you've already learned it). If you choose to stay and play, be sure to hang on (mostly to your sanity), because this is when the roller coaster ride starts and all the games begin!

Every relationship is a mirror that helps us to learn more about ourselves. They are the most challenging and the most rewarding aspects of life. The more intimate the relationship the greater the opportunity for growth we are given. If an issue or person has an emotional “charge” to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. Hence, beware of the soul mate. I know I sound repetitive but someone has to tell you!

Self-understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors -- not to ‘fix’ the other person, but to look at yourself and learn. The primary reason for most soul mate relationships is so you can work on your spiritual self and your karma! So with that said, the more you clear up issues for yourself and the more YOU ARE the ‘right’ person; the sooner you will attract the twin flame you are looking for.

Soul mates share a common mission and comparable stage of spiritual development. They come together because they are working on the same type of karma and the same chakra simultaneously. Soul mates have an attraction that is based on the sacred labor and on the path of self-mastery on your personal spiritual path.

In a soul mate relationship there is always a connection between you from prior lives. Keep in mind that you can have as many as 3000 soul mates in one life time. You have not been happily married to each of them but in some cases you have killed each other or you may have been each other's parents, siblings or battling next-door neighbors.

Quite often in readings, I see a similar pattern for many couples. For example, when a couple is experiencing a horrible sex life, it is often because they were siblings in a past life and therefore the intimate relationship in their current life feels wrong. Another common pattern is marrying someone who was our parent in a past life, which provides an opportunity to work out whatever unresolved lessons you might have from the past. In many cases issues are reversed from lifetime to lifetime so that we might learn how the other person felt.

Whenever you consider breaking up with a soul mate, it seems A GIANT MAGNET appears in the sky making you both run into each other in the strangest of places. Soul mates can feel you come in the door when you come home or know when you're in a crowded place. A soul mate can project his/her thoughts onto you so it becomes unclear if you are thinking of them or they are projecting their thoughts on you so that you can’t tell if they are thinking of you, or you are missing them. It takes a lot to break free from a soul mate, often times you'll break up 6 to 20 times.

A word of warning if you choose to marry one of your soul mates: Do NOT COMPLAIN constantly to your friends and family about your relationship. They won't understand that you've chosen each other as a contract of lessons and you'll only make the other people in your life despise your spouse.

Twin Flames

Twin flames are ourselves in another body. When we have reached the stage where we are capable of giving unconditional love, we then have the opportunity to reconnect with our “other half” or twin flame. The chances are that we meet our twin flame briefly in many lifetimes, but one or both of us are not ready for the intensity of this connection. When both halves of the whole are ready to come back together and meet they will discover that in their lifetime they have lead almost parallel lives.

The events of their lives will mirror each other almost exactly. They may have come from very similar families and family dynamics. They may have had similar schooling or lack thereof. They may have crossed paths socially or lived close by to each other and never known it. They may have almost identical careers. They may even have previous marriages and divorces within weeks of each other. When twin flames get to know each other, they will feel as if the other is reading their life script. That isn't to say they are identical people, but they are perfectly complimentary to each other.

When twin flames meet for the first time in a physical life, they recognize themselves in the other person. This will come as a deep surprise to both, but the recognition is immediate. At the same time you will feel that you have always known this person who is sitting in front of you. It is a feeling of homecoming, because you recognize your other self and feel very much that you have come home when you are with your spiritual twin flame counterpart. Be aware that soul mates also have a strong recognition pattern, only there will be that little voice in your head that knows the difference.

When twin flames come together they become one, they are not like each other but they are the mirror image of the other. They think alike, they hold the same values and often their life experiences are very similar. Twin flames do not teach each other, they learn together and help each other learn the lessons that have been set before them in this lifetime. When twin flames come together they join forces and are capable of overcoming obstacles the average mortal could not begin to face. They are so filled with unconditional love they literally glow with it and have much to share with others. They are the inspiration that poets write about and singers sing about.

Once in awhile, yes I have seen twin flames come together and not make it work, this is only because you have chosen different life lessons this time around and you do not fit as lovers, but you will always be best friends.

Fortunately, you also have me to help you determine the difference. When you are ready to break your unhealthy patterns of attracting unhealthy soul mates, I have many tools to help you set you free. I can help you attract your twin flame or at the very least, someone you have no karma with so that you can go into a relationship with a clean slate.

There can be a happy medium in love.

No one is perfect and not one person can make us totally happy, we need to make ourselves happy first. Love needs to be a bonus, a plus not a negative.

The first year of any relationship you are building the foundation, see your buddies and keep your hobbies this will build a healthy long lasting love life together. Eventually the beginning of love wears off and we all miss our buddies and time alone, never stop seeing them then later you can avoid the questions, why now? When you want to start seeing your friends again, why now, what is wrong with us now? 

Are you ready to jump off that drama trauma train?

Kindred Spirits and Soul Mates

Kindred Spirits and Soul Mates

http://www.oocities.com/reveurgam/beliefs/beliefs13.html

In this world there are souls which are directly aligned with yours and those that are indirectly aligned. All souls, on a basic level, are aligned with each other. It is the interconnectedness of things. Souls wander in and out of your life at all times. Most of the time, I think, there is a reason for the crossing of paths. Every meeting, every event, presents opportunities and opens doors to learn new things. Of the souls that are aligned (ie: connected) directly with ours there are two that are very important. The first is the kindred spirit (KS).

Kindred spirits can be thought of, in a loose sense, as relatives, teachers or students. They have a high connection to you due to the intertwining of your soul's destiny with theirs. Often these souls come into your life because either you need their guidance or they need yours. Sometimes they are there to give or receive support. There are other reasons. Some of these Kindred Spirits will remain in your life for a very long time. Others pass through and you may only see them for months, weeks, days or even hours. Some will even cross paths with you life after life. KS's are, generally, people with whom you rapidly develop an affinity. After talking to them for a short while you feel as though you've known them your entire life. Some KS's can be a good mate for you. Unfortunately, because every soul has freedom of choice, sometimes when a KS comes into your life they may be way off their path and be in serious need of guidance. They may even try, in their misguided beliefs, to draw you away from your path. Don't let that happen. Know the difference between benevolent guidance and a misguided soul. Love them. Help them. KS's tend to appear in life after life, a recurring theme if you will, but some you won't encounter very often. I think part of the purpose of KS's is multifold: A KS may cross your path to A) teach you, B) be taught by you, C) to give or receive emotional support or spiritual guidance or D) even be guided to encounter you because they are in desperate need of help.

The second type of soul that is directly aligned with yours is the Soul Mate. Soul Mates are very special. For each soul there is only one Soul Mate (SM for short, apologies to those who think of something else! hehe). Your SM can be thought of as your other half. Without that person you are incomplete. With them your life is incredibly rich. Meeting your SM is like meeting a Kindred Spirit but much more intense. An immediate reaction is felt by both parties. It is undeniable and, sometimes, frightening. I don't mean it is frightening because it's a horrible experience but because some people are unprepared to have that kind of a reaction to another person and most peoples' natural reaction to the unknown is to be afraid. As with KS's your SM may have lost their way and might run away from you or even hurt you (there are example letters in Magic's page that I mentioned at the top). Just because they are your SM doesn't mean it's going to be an easy task to make your relationship work. Every relationship takes work, even with your SM, and even if neither of you have issues clouding your minds and making you walk away from your path you will still have to learn how to be with each other in a healthy, happy relationship. Do not think that just because you have found your Soul Mate life will suddenly be a cakewalk. Your SM enriches your life and gives it added value but this person does not make your life perfect. What would be the point of being here, then, if your challenges and lessons were suddenly removed? You are still here because the creator put you here. Finding your SM doesn't change that. I know it sounds bad but think of your SM as a reward, icing on the cake. Being with your SM causes you to see, hear, feel, smell and taste things differently. Your senses are heightened. You have a very strong desire to be near them. Sex is above and beyond any sex you've ever had before. You will understand them better than anyone you've ever met. You'll be able to finish each others' sentences and much, much more. Don't let this lull you into a false sense of security. Remember, you still have things to learn. Share what you know with your SM so that you can work together to learn what you don't know.

There is one other major type of directly connected soul. That is an enlightened one who has learned all that this plane of reality has to teach it but has chosen to stay here for a time to help other souls. Count yourself lucky if you encounter one for they can speed your way to the next level of soul-development.

Of the indirectly connected souls there are two general types - benevolent and malignant. I think this is pretty straightforward but just in case...The benevolent souls are those who follow a path of good and contact with them is generally beneficial. You may not necessarily garner anything of any great value from the association but little to no harm will be done by befriending them. Of course, the malignant soul is a different sort. They are on a path of self-destruction and/or evil. Some know this but some do not. Some will seek to block your advancement through deceitful means. They are the worst ones. Others will not be that clever and you will rapidly learn they are up to no good. Others wander, somewhat blindly, through the world, lost without even knowing it. If you find these souls you cannot help them. The only soul you can help is your own. You can, however, love them. You can reach someone through love when you cannot reach them any other way. Through that love you may get them to see that they are off the path. If you cannot help a malignant soul do not feel as if you have failed - it is very difficult to do.

All souls are connected to each other because the entire universe is made of energy and even souls are defined by energy. Through this energy, which circulates freely throughout the universe, we are all connected to each other and to the creator. The creator is always aware of us and what we think and do. I do not think that the creator interferes too much with us; rather, it allows us to follow the path we choose, even if it detours away from the true path, so that we may learn at our own pace and pay our own way. What is the point in life lessons if we're constantly being pushed in the correct direction? Do you learn better by watching someone else or by doing it yourself? Does a lesson sink in as deeply if someone else gives you the answer or if you find it yourself? Some of the best-learned lessons are the hardest ones.

Please note that souls are neither male nor female. That is something from this reality and doesn't apply elsewhere. One can think of light and dark, good and evil, man and woman, hard and soft, and other opposites in terms of dualities in that each of these requires the other to appreciate. Contrast provides appreciation.The symbol that best represents the oppositional dualities of life is the Yin-Yang.